So…I decided to give this one guy another chance. We have been talking on this one dating website probably off and on for a couple of years. He lives a little over 2 and a half hours drive time away from me and until recently, worked graveyard shift, worked weekends, and prior to Covid a lot of overtime, so meeting up or having a relationship wasn’t entirely practical. We would chat online for awhile and then I wouldn’t hear from him for lie 6 months. I finally got tired of it and told him if he wasn’t ever going to make the effort to meet, then he should leave me alone. Frankly, I told him I wasn’t there just for his wanking off pleasure.
Well, he got in touch just this past week or so and nothing else fruitful was going on in my life except yet another scammer (why won’t they leave me alone??!!) so I thought I’d just see if now that he is working days (11-7) and has weekends off and a holiday weekend was coming up, I’d see if he made more of an effort. But he would be on a short time leash. I gave him a few lead-ins like, looks like it would be a good weekend for a BBQ, to which he replied, “or to meet some place for BBQ,” but with no follow up. Later, when I asked him why he had gotten in touch with me again, he said to get to know me better. I thought, buddy, if you don’t know me well enough by now after chatting on and off for a couple of years, then you won’t ever know me. Then he asked if we had ever talked on the phone and I said no. So, we agreed to talk on the phone the next night.
That went pretty well, but with still no offer for meeting up over the weekend, just a talk to you tomorrow (which is Friday). I get a text the next morning while I am at my eye doctor’s appointment and after that…SILENCE. NADA. NOTHING. BUPKIS. I finally sent him a text, just a what’s up. Then I sent him an F, telling him he had failed (being a teacher). Then I finally sent him a longer text saying that he had been given his last chance to come through and actually do more than just dance around. He needed to make a move and actually ask me to meet him and plan it out. We don’t live that far apart and if he wanted something real then he had to do the work. If he wasn’t willing to put forth the effort then he was going to miss out on the opportunity to see if there could be something worthwhile here or not. Up to him. Still nothing. So, I guess I have my answer.
Don’t be on a damn dating website and take up my time if you haven’t got the balls to do anything about it!!
Internet Dating at 66 - A Woman's Perspective 